Do you think being beautiful or sexy - just by itself - is a surefire way to guy's heart? How many "beautiful" or "sexy" girls do you think are really loved by their man?
The Fact: These attributes may matter for a fling but in a soulmate, a man looks for something else.
The Sexy girls are often "torpid" in bed: That very often is an open-secret among men (unless, of course, they visit one of the "Gentleman's clubs" where being sexy or beautiful alone doesn't work!). The beautiful girl expects the man to do all the work! That may go well with him at first but in a true mate he looks for a two-way exchange. And that's where good old Mary wins. She touches, she plays and the man sways! Men love that and more so when they are just looking for a perfect wife.
The beautiful girl expects royal treatment: Why not? She is cute, attractive and with choices - apparently. Good old Mary looks for a soul-to-soul connection and a deeper bonding. That's what the men really want deep inside - care, love and involvement.
Good old Mary believes in true love and the Bombshell triggers the "survival of the fittest": So is Mary a loser? Men often look at beauty as a mystery - it ceases to exist when unfolded. So the sexy girl does pretty well till the aura of beauty and her mystery remain.
Good old Mary wants to have a happy family and beautiful girl, a happy face: It's beauty that is her survival mode but men are just grown up boys. At the end of the day, they look out for nurturing love. And good old Mary is always a shoulder to cry on when things are not just right. She gets her man since she knows what he really looks for in mate.
This is what I feel and have heard time and over again from other guys who I have talked to. You all are free to give your point of view which might lead me to write another post about this.
Thursday, 13 November 2008
Is Being Attractive The Main Deciding Factor?
Monday, 10 November 2008
Are Sex-Scenes Mandatory In Movies?
People say the humidity pushed me over the edge. Things here to the east are different, a little crazier, a little more corrupt, a little closer to coming undone, because of the constant choking humidity. That sweltering heat. Indoors, you shiver in Antarctic air conditioning, the machines perched on your windowsills spitting out ice cubes and penguins, but you steam in your own juices like a lobster in a microwave the instant you walk outside. Everybody from the East is naturally a few steps closer to a psychotic meltdown than, say, their Southern countrymen. After years of having all the oxygen sucked out of your brain every time you step out your front door, something bad happens between your ears.
All the above factors conspired to make me write about a discussion I had with a friend of mine recently about why film-makers feel the need to have sex-scenes that didn't belong and were gratuitous. It got me thinking about which sort of scenes do belong and are necessary for the narration of the movie and what makes them necessary.
Here's my point of view:
I personally think that there is only one time that a film-maker can get away with sex for sex's sake and that's when the characters do it for the first time. Then, I feel you have the freedom to make scene(s) as long and as involved as the film-maker likes. After that the sex-scenes should have a purpose other than to show that the characters are just having fun again.
There are movies can be exempted from this like "9 Songs" which primarily is a film which shows the decline of interest in a couple over time related to physical intimacy if there is no emotional feeling(read love) involved. If that's the theme of a particular film then definitely the film-maker has the justification for multiple sex scenes. Directors like Catherine Breillat, Pedro Almodovar, Jean-Luc Godard, etc. have had multiple sex-scenes in their movies but no one calls them obscene and they are all award winning and critically acclaimed directors.
Then there are those compulsory "turning point" sex-scenes, where a character realizes as they are having sex, "Oh, this person isn't just another one-time-sex partner". This can happen in two different scenes in the movie or the same one but it depends on the characters and whether or not one of them is farther along the emotional journey than the other. It also depends on the producer and the quality of sex-scenes that they prefer.
One can also make an epilogue-type sex scene that shows the characters engaging in sex in which the film-maker can make a great-to-do about how even better the sex is now that they are married or engaged or bonded or whatever.
I can't think of any more reasons but if you, i.e. the readers can think of any then please mention in the comments.
Links to:
10 Movies Remembered Primarily for a Sex Scene
10 Movies That Sold due a Sex Scene
Saturday, 8 November 2008
27 Years Of Walking On Earth.
Probably you know that I’ve been walking around this earth for roughly 27 years now and have come to learn a bit about this world. I never claim to know everything & I don’t really like it when people assume they do. Even if one knows a lot, one still has a lot to learn, even about the things one “knows". I’m not certain where this is going to lead but I just wanted to list a few things that I understood recently:
I love having a conversation about old shows on Doordarshan we used to watch as kids.
No one is more vulnerable than when they are defecating in a public bathroom that has no latch.
The more devoid of colour a beverage is, the more likelihood of it being very alcoholic.
A small dog frightens one way more than a big dog will.
Voting makes one feel really good right after one does it and makes one feel very small once the results are in.
I am no longer self-conscious when I’m by myself in public and smile because something very funny or inappropriate just popped into my head.
The untidyness in my surrounding life parallels the clutter in my mind.
I find that making out can vary from casual to intimate; the only difference is one's intention.
All-in-all I’ve made several goals for myself this month. They include reducing at least 5 kgs of body fat, buying a vaio laptop, getting a titanium credit card, visiting as many cities as I can before terrorists destroy them, and learning to find more and more time to write. A lot of these goals are very simple, which is great. These aren’t all officially on the Before 28 list, but I’ve become a product of list making and I can see the benefits in making them. I got a message from someone that said that I write like a programmer. To illustrate the differences I will write the entire next paragraph in actionscript code:
//start
var Sourav:Workaholic = new Workaholic();
Sourav.workEthic = 100;
for(var i:Number=0;<7;i++){
Sourav.workEthic -= 10;
}
if(Sourav.workEthic < 50) {
Sourav.emotionalState = “lazy”;
getMotivated();
} else if(Sourav.workEthic > 100) {
Sourav.emotionalState = “over-worked”;
relax();
} else {
Sourav.emotionalState = “balanced”;
}
function getMotivated(){
getURL(”http://www.google.com”,”_blank”);
//type in inspiring words
}
function relax(){
sleep();
}
//end
Here's my present situation. As you may or may not know I’m constantly in touch with my friends through phone, sms or through the internet but the city I am in right now has no one who I can actually call a friend. Now I rarely mind this state of being; I think being alone is what I need right now because it helps me re-group and re-organize life's goals. That being said, I sometimes do get a bit lonely, and how could you not? Now I don’t actively go out trying to find someone to hang out with; I always find that doing that can actually make one start disbelieving that one can have real good friends and not "Fair-weather" ones. Instead I'm better off relying on my current social network to assist in finding new friends who can just be interactive without being judging and bitching behind my back. I find that making the most of life is fairly easy to do when you don’t have very many expectations. Think of it this way: If you expect something to go great and it doesn’t, then you feel bad. If you expect something to go bad and it goes bad, then you feel bad. If you don’t expect something and it goes bad, then it’s ok cause you didn’t really expect it to be good. If you don’t expect something and it goes great, then it’s always better because you didn’t expect anything and ended up with awesomeness. I feel like I’ve professed this to many people but I really do think that this thought process is the key to keeping one smiling. Expectations come from prejudice of a situation. And while a healthy dose of prejudice is fine… too much can restrict you. I’m a big proponent of limitlessness; I’m aware (and so is my spell check) that it’s not a real word but so what. You at least ended up on this page.
That all being said, I’ve made a new awesome friend Fritz, he's 22 and he writes fiction which I do too and hence, I get to discuss things that run through my head with him. I’ve been meaning to do that for a while now; yes both make a new friend and have a meaningful conversation with a person who can listen and give another point of view to my weird thoughts. As he has come to India for the first time (He's from NYC, U.S.A) and intends to stay for 10 long months, I can surely look forward to some exchange of thoughts and talk about cultural differences and some debates about stuff on which our views differ. All of the most talented people are now my friends so that’s very good! It’s great to keep talent around to inspire you and kick your butt a bit to push the boundaries and make one strive to do better.
By the way, I wanted to touch on traveling. I had a great time in Gangtok and Mandarmani but I haven't been travelling much for the past 1 year. I like that in all of those places I was able to seek peace and quiet whether it be the snow-capped mountains surrounding Tsongo Lake in Gangtok or the vast expanse of clear blue sea at Mandarmani. I feel like this whole month as well has been about reconnecting long lost bonds. Just the other day I talked to my school friend Parijat after 8 long years but it never felt any different than it was 8 years ago when we met everyday in college. It’s true what people say about friends: Even if you aren’t in constant contact with them, true friends can pick-up and continue on right from where they left off. I’m thankful for this. Only a few more weeks left till I can apply for leaves from my new-job. That’s going to be a great holiday.
Thursday, 6 November 2008
Why?
Why is it so hard for you to understand,
I don't want to be with you anymore,
You gave me only your hand,
You didn't give yourself and I demand war,
You betrayed me and I am falling apart,
You said you loved me but you hated me,
You weren't any longer my guard,
Being my enemy is what you wanted to be,
While I was crying the pain hurt everytime like hell,
It didn't stop, it was your way of loving someone,
How come you don't know, tears are what you sell,
Don't you understand the damage you have done,
I still love you, I don't know why,
First I was afraid to stand up and tell you how I felt,
Now I am afraid, I don't know anymore if I'm still standing high,
I shiver when I think about how you yelled,
But I still long for your touch,
And as I'm imagining,
I still love you very much,
From your love I could sing,
I think it's wrong,
Desiring a woman who always wounded my soul,
But I've been with you for so long,
I don't want to speak, everyday you desperate call,
I don't understand why, you first desert me,
And then you only want to be with me, it's the,
Question why, I am so depressive and still love you,
It doesn't make sense, Oh why, why, why, why do I still want you?
Why, why, why, why, why, I keep thinking,
I realize, in your love I'm sinking.
Not my work. One word modification from a poem written by Charley.
Tuesday, 4 November 2008
I'm not a NERD
My hands are always moving and my fingers never still.
The monitor is my ink. The keyboard is my quill.
My guitar is in my speakers and a disk holds all my drums.
The key to my eraser is now beneath my thumbs.
My paintbrush is my mouse and the bristles are the cords.
My programs built my house. The tool bar hung the door.
The Internet's my city, state, and country. It's my globe.
Google is a map when I cannot find my Home.
I fall asleep at some sites and wake up in others lost.
I'm addicted to blogging and I don't care what it costs.
Every Sunday I get up and go to church at AMD.
It takes confessions while pretending not to sleep.
I keep up with correspondents at night before bed.
"Yahoo!" "You've got mail!" Or whatever it may have said.
I log off and go to sleep. I dream only in words.
I may not be cool to you, but in MY world I'm not a nerd!
Strength
A mind so strong
Cannot be owned
This life I live
Is mine alone
As it has been
And still will be
Until the time
That death ends me
I am myself
And on my own
To deal with hell
My strength has grown
The stress forged will
I wield has shown
No link as weak
Or piece as lone
Within these walls
Of mental shields
I live at peace
As torment yields.
Monday, 3 November 2008
Living In Fear
Time resumes to the taste of glass
As slivered dust fades away
Realization hits as an aftershock
Death has never been closer
Twisted forms of flesh and steel
Lie still now, rid of motion
Reeling from the forces involved
That bend both metal and the mind
Through a skewed door
I see the fast lane frozen
From my place in the middle
Standing, stopped as i was
Such an eerie pause surrounding
This vein of travel clotted
Calmly invades me
As wounds bleed in my eyes
These tears of red are shed for scars
That touch the bone and leave my sight
A grateful fortune for I'm thankful
Marred my face with marks so painful
P.S. --- Tribute to the people who are still braving it out there even after losing their near and dear ones. I lost three friends in the blasts. Swapan, Neog, and Nirmala, you would always be remembered.
Tuesday, 21 October 2008
Could That Ever Be?
Emptiness inside me
Something is missing for sure
Broken poems and laughter
Does this sound complete?
Recording my feelings
Does this mean anything?
No one understands me
That is the usual statement I am sure
Does anyone want to know me?
Does anyone really care?
Questions I ask
Answers I never find
Would it be too much to ask?
Another question I am sure
I'm a ghost with no answers
Does this sound right to you?
All I am asking is for you to be in my life
Could that ever be?
I Care
I want you to know how much I really care
The way things are make it difficult to share
The way you look at me I can't help but stare
Your eyes are so beautiful that no one elses can be compared
From the day I met you I have always been aware
That all these feelings are there
Months have passed by and these feelings I bare
I am just wondering how much do you care?
Fading
Fading like a flower
Flooded like the streets when it rains
Dark as my room when I lay there all alone
As broke as my heart when denied your love
As broken as ten thousand mirrors
But nothing compares to the way my love seems
Stronger than any force that has ever been
Undying like a thousand anthems played
P.S. --- I didn't realize my poems were worth copying. Check the link out and see that this person copied it and submitted it for a poetry contest.
Link to Poem copied from here
Monday, 6 October 2008
Broken Dreams
Have you ever had your dream broken,
Hope left completely unspoken,
Found you had no chance,
To go another round of the pin-head dance,
Lost your way wandering in a trance,
Nothing left to say,
Just another day,
Burning for the lie?
No place to call home,
Chips crashed all alone,
All for one brings on the fall,
'Cause no one's ever for us all,
The system is completely broken,
Each of us made just a token,
Just another way,
Of burning for the lie.
Tell me to work hard,
For my just reward,
But it all rolls uphill,
Never our dreams fulfilled,
I'm shaken and I'm chilled,
It's a horse-sized bitter pill,
All the edges fray,
Burning for the lie.
My belief is somewhere,
Under the floorboards the bank is going to own.
Friday, 3 October 2008
Where is the next blast going to be?
Bomb blasts have become a regular feature in India, especially in 2008 with blasts happening in 7 cities and we can assume that there are more to come. There was a time when we considered life in Jammu & Kashmir to be dangerous but today is there any town or city in India which can be called safe from terrorism? Terrorists have spread themselves to every nook and corner of this country and therefore we can never know where the next blast might happen.
Where is this country headed? Terrorists are sending e-mails and contacting the country’s security forces or the media threatening or challenging them to do whatever possible and they have been largely successful in causing terror in people’s minds about the condition of internal security of our country.
All the blasts have been executed in a very planned manner and they have crossed every limit of humanity. This time around, the terrorists even targeted hospitals and timed the blasts so that they took the maximum number of lives by timing them exactly when the blast victims were being rushed into the hospitals. This inhuman act speaks a lot about their intentions and that they don’t value human lives. None whatsoever.
"Do whatever you can. Stop us if you can," This was the statement given by a group calling itself the "Indian Mujahideen". A small bunch of anti-social elements which deviated from SIMI challenging the world’s largest democracy ? What is the Government of India Doing ?
India has been the target of repeated terrorist attacks attributed to Islamist terrorists. Experts say the vast majority of those attacks in the last few years were carried out by SIMI with help from outside India, chiefly Pakistan. Till now, SIMI has been responsible for most of 1,193 deaths attributed to Islamic terrorists in India since Sept. 11, 2001, according to the South Asia Terrorism Portal, a New Delhi research firm.
Are we getting habitual of these blasts? That is the quintessential question. Do we have an answer to this question? I don’t have any answer to it yet. What kind of future are we going to give to the next generation? A seed that was bowed during partition has now grown into a big tress, and unfortunately today this tree is fruiting products like Indian Mujahideen, SIMI, and foreign terrorist organizations such as Lashkar-e-Taiba. Bomb blasts are heinous crimes on humanity. The people who are doing so are puppets controlled by the hands of masterminds sitting away at safe places but these puppets work away methodically like machines without asking questions.
Hope that the scene changes soon and that we wouldn’t be seeing such gory pictures as the one above in the days to come. Here I am wishing for a better and terror free India.
Chronology of Major Bomb Blasts in India
• October 1, 2008: Blast in Agartala, Tripura killed 2 and injured 100.
• September 30, 2008: Blast in Malegaon, Maharastra killed 4 and injured 70.
• September 27, 2008: Blast in Delhi's Mehrauli flower market killed 1 and injured 23.
• September 13, 2008: Serial blasts in Delhi killed at least 24 people and injured more than 100.
• July 26, 2008: Serial blasts in Ahmedabad killing at least 30 people and injuring more than 100.
• July 25, 2008: Nine explosions in Bangalore create terror killing 2 people and injuring 12.
• May 2008: Eight serial blasts rock Jaipur in a span of 12 minutes leaving 65 dead and over 150 injured.
• January 2008: Terrorist attack on CRPF camp in Rampur kills 8.
• October 2007: 2 killed in a blast inside Ajmer Sharif shrine during Ramadan.
• August 2007: 30 dead, 60 hurt in Hyderabad 'terror' strike.
• May 2007: A bomb at Mecca mosque in Hyderabad kills 11 people.
• February 19, 2007: Two bombs explode aboard a train bound from India to Pakistan, burning to death at least 66 passengers, most of them Pakistanis.
• September 2006: 30 dead and 100 hurt in twin blasts at a mosque in Malegaon.
• July 2006: Seven bombs on Mumbai's trains kill over 200 and injure 700 others.
• March 2006: Twin bombings at a train station and a temple in Varanasi kill 20 people.
• October 2005: Three bombs placed in busy New Delhi markets a day before Diwali kill 62 people and injure hundreds.
• August 2003: Two taxis packed with explosives blow up outside a Mumbai tourist attraction and a busy market, killing 52 and wounding more than 100.
• September 24, 2002: Militants with guns and explosives attack the Akshardham Hindu temple in the western state of Gujarat, 31 killed, More than 80 injured.
• May 14: Militants attack an army camp near Kashmir's winter capital, Jammu, killing more than 30, including wives and children of soldiers.
• December 13, 2001: More than a dozen people, including five gunmen, killed in an attack on parliament in New Delhi.
• October 1, 2001: Militants storm the Jammu and Kashmir state assembly complex, killing about 35 people.
• March 1993: Mumbai serial bombings kill 257 people and injure more than 1,100.
Tuesday, 13 May 2008
Led Zeppelin - Stairway To Heaven
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Going Insane
There's no place to hide.
Lost in the mind,
Beg and scream,
Pain so keen.
But can anyone understand,
That you don't mean to demand?
Bleeding from the eyes,
A way out we're trying to find.
Tears fall to the ground so hard,
Arms have become so scarred.
Get through this nightmare tonight,
And maybe in the morning we'll be all right.
Memories flood the brain,
Completely going insane.
Curl into a ball,
And into madness we'll fall.
Darkness & My Doom
The light of day I shall not see
I will never know,
Just why you have forsaken me
Silenced by your choice,
For my screams you shall never hear
Condemned to my death,
Unable to conquer your fear
Pain I must endure,
As I am severed from your womb
Darkness is my only saving grace,
A plastic bag my only tomb
Friday, 28 March 2008
Atheism
I’m a canonical person who is sometimes bordering on the verge of insanity as some people around me will aver. So, as I tattle about me being an atheist, no one needs to take heed. I don’t want to bore you with my perpetual lecture about Atheism. Anyhow here goes aught.
Someone today brought up the issue which got me thinking again about HIM i.e. GOD. I always assay to ascertain why I bother to waste my invaluable time to think about HIS existence or non-existence (According to me) ? It’s been a hell lot of time since I last spared HIM a thought! Those of you who are still reading this and aren’t bored to death will tend to think that I’m sacrilegious.
For those unworldly beings who doesn’t know what Atheism Means: The word ‘atheism’ comes from the negative ‘a’ which means ‘no’ and ‘theos’ which means ‘god.’ Hence, atheism in the most base terms means ‘no god.’ Basically, atheism is the lack of belief in a god and/or the belief that there is no god. By contrast, theism is the belief that there is a God and that He is knowable. I need to mention that most atheists do not consider themselves anti-theists. Most consider themselves as non-theists. I've encountered many atheists who claim that atheism is not a belief system while others say it is. Since there is no official atheist organization, nailing down which definition of atheism to use can be difficult. Following are some definitions offered by atheists. ·
"An atheist is someone who believes and/or knows there is no god."
"An atheist lacks belief in a god."
"An atheist exercises no faith in the concept of god at all."
"An atheist is someone who is free from religious oppression and bigotry."
"An atheist is someone who is a free-thinker, free from religion and its ideas."
Which ever definition you go by, atheism denies God. There are two main categories of atheists: strong and weak, with variations in between. A strong atheist actively believes and states that no God exists. They expressly denounce the Christian God along with any other god. Strong atheists are usually more aggressive in their conversations with theists and try shoot holes in theistic beliefs. They like to use logic and anti-biblical evidences to denounce God's existence. Agnostic Atheists, as I call them, are those who deny God's existence based on an examination of evidence. Agnosticism means 'not knowing,' or 'no knowledge.' I call them agnostic because they state they have looked at the evidence and have concluded that there is no God. But, the interesting thing with them is that they say they are open further evidence for God's existence. Weak atheists simply exercise no faith in God. The weak atheist might be better explained as a person who lacks belief in God the way a person might lack belief that there is a green lizard in a rocking chair on the moon; it isn't an issue. He doesn't believe or not believe it. Finally, there is a group of atheists that I call militant atheists. They are, fortunately, few in number. They are usually highly insulting and profoundly terse in their comments to theists, particularly Christians. I’ve encountered a few of them and they are vile, rude, and highly condescending. Their language is full of insults, profanity, and blasphemies. Basically, no meaningful conversation can be had with them at all.
But indeed I think GOD is a theoretical conception contrived to ply psychological back up to people.
Atheist positions seem to fall into two main categories. The first is the lack of evidence category where the atheist asserts that the supporting evidence isn't good enough for him to affirm God's existence. The second is the category where they believe that the idea of God existing is illogical and contrary to the evidence at hand. To simplify, one says there isn't enough evidence to decide and the other says there is evidence contrary to God's existence. For those atheists who simply lack belief and exercise no energy in the discussion, neither category applies because they are not involved in the debate. A typical argument posed by an atheist to show why God does not exist is as follows: God is supposed to be all good and all powerful. Evil and suffering exist in the world. If God is all good he would not want evil and suffering to exist. If He is all powerful then He is able to remove all evil and suffering. Since evil and suffering exist, God is either not all good (which means he is not perfect and not God), or he is not all powerful (and limited in abilities and scope). Since either case shows God is not all good and powerful, then He does not exist.
Presuppositions are important to us all. We look at the world through them. The atheist has a set of presuppositions, too. Though there is no definitive atheist organization that defines the absolutes of atheism, there are basic principles that atheists, as a whole, tend to adopt. They are listed below. Please note however, that not all atheists assert all of these tenets. The only absolute common one they hold to is that they do not believe in a God or gods.
1. There is no God or devil.
2. There is no supernatural realm.
3. Miracles cannot occur.
4. There is no such thing as sin as a violation of God's will.
5. Generally, the universe is materialistic and measurable.
6. Man is material.
7. Generally, evolution is considered a scientific fact.
8. Ethics and morals are relative.
For the Christian, atheism clashes with many aspects of our faith. Some atheists openly attack Christianity citing apparent contradictions in the Bible, perceived philosophical difficulties related to God, and what they consider as logical evidences against God's existence. But the atheists' criticisms are not without answers. Hopefully, this information will help answer some of their claims and give reasons for believing in God.
We sometimes tend to think otherwise that there indeed is something out there which we have no clew around but what if it’s a legerdemain? What if there is nothing at all?
These are questions to which I haven’t been able to answer but I can surely say that which I can’t see, feel, hear or touch, I don’t believe.
Basically, I do not see how the atheist could claim any moral absolutes at all. To an atheist, ethics must be variable and evolving. This could be good or bad. But, given human nature being what it is, I'll opt for the moral absolutes.
I have read incandescently many theistical and atheistical books but haven’t arrived at a conclusion yet. But will what I am rambling about have any repercussions in those who read it eventually? I doubt it. What good will it do for you to read a lecture on atheism given by a hallucinating 25 year old male? Don’t you think you have wasted a lot of time if you are indeed still reading this? Anyway, if you visualize anything about GOD and want to speak out then do reply and let others know about what your view is !!! Signing off here. Will write again if anyone is duly interested to hear what this crackerball of an atheist has to say.